Favorite Sounds of the Day

At day’s long end, I called up my sister to check in on her galavanting (I like to think she’s galavanting) summer in Colorado.

The sound of her phone ringing, even though it is surely some kind of digital reenactment of “her” ring, suddenly became my favorite sound of the day.

It held some kind of cheery hope I didn’t realize I was even wanting to hear.  But yes, I was longing for that hope of a good conversation. The hope of a funny story and a moment to laugh and listen.  My sister always has something to share, so there is little need to talk about myself–that oh so tiring act.

Of course, my sister does prod and pull and eventually gets me to tell her all the things I shy from sharing.  But this is a hope, too, as I hear her phone ringing.  It’s the hope of connecting with someone who really knows your story.

Other sounds I enjoyed today:
“How’s work today?” and “Did ya make it to church today?”  were both asked of me by a very adorable and cheery young environmentalist guest at work.  *crushable

“I am totally buying you a Julius! I missed you.”  was said by a leader and friend at work.  *inspiring and motivational

“Sommmebbbbodyyy to loooovvvvee!!”  was sung by a co-worker unexpectedly at the end of our shift.  *tension releasing

“How deep the Father’s love for us.”  was sung by a new worship team friend this morning.  *humbling because I know He knows my story, too.

(Clearly, I worked today and it was a long day, but the smiles and niceties were abundant.  I am grateful.  Also, I wrote this on my phone after calling my sister. Thanks for being inspiring.)

Take Notes

After a lengthy conversation with my sister, this is what was determined:

“The first bridge you have to cross will always be the one you haven’t crossed yet.” 

“The ones that decided had more success.” 

and finally,

“Dig in and let go.”

These bits of advice could be applied to a great many situations, but we were really talking about relationships of all sorts.  Sisters, friends, parents, co-workers.  There is no getting past the beginning, the middle, or the end except to walk right through–converse right through it.

Decide to be present, decide to say what needs to be said, dig in and let go.  Soon enough, you will be on the other side of the first bridge.  Then, of course, you’ll have to cross another.

She and Me: A Sisterly Conversation
Basement Couch Publications
(c) 2011

Read My Mind

I was driving home from a high energy choir concert wondering just how I should treat myself for pulling it all off.  Oddly, I didn’t feel like ice cream.  Instead all I could think about was tea, tea, tea–unwind with some tea.  I walked in to find this.  [Somebody] read my mind.

“Help yourself.  I know you did great.”

Called Up

I use this phrase at school to tell students they are wanted in the office.  I say, “Hey, guess what?! You have been called up, man!”  Despite the concern that often rises in their eyes, it does usually help to lighten the mood.

Today, I was called up.  Thankfully, not to the principal’s office, but to a Women’s Conference.  I was on the waiting list, but I’m not anymore!  I’m concerned.  What will I find?

The conference is at my local church in town here (written like a true Minnesotan) and I’m attending with my sister Friday and Saturday.  Wish me something good.

Clog #3: Options

C: “Why do I always like the best and most expensive options?”

S:  “Because what other options are there, really?  Go ahead, pay $25 for bamboo knitting needles.”

Being Open to Closing the Door

Sometimes being open means closing the door.  It’s well and good to be open to the unexpected, but the unexpected isn’t the only option.  Be open, also, to the expected results of investing in your life right here and now.  It’s okay to close a distant, difficult door, especially if you feel you’re not going to be able to fit through it anyway, let alone handle what’s on the other side.

Her and Me: A Sisterly Conversation
The Basement Couch Publishing (c) 2011

Katharine Hepburn Guts

I dare you.
You’re so this and I’m so not.
You can try if you want to, but it’s not going to work.
I’m sorry I would never go out with you; It’s just that I’m sure we’d drive each other crazy and nobody wants that.
It would take a whole day to prove to you that we are not meant to be.
I’m sure you would have a grand time on a date with me, but I’m not convinced that I would be having a grand time.

I said to my sister, “Sometimes I just want to say to a guy, ‘I dare you.  I dare you to pursue me.’  But who has the guts to say this?”  She said, “Katharine Hepburn.”  Then we thought of some other cheeky, yet possibly brilliant ways to dare a guy.  See above.

Of All The Sizzling Ideas

The thought that stands out in my head this evening is, “I am a spirit.  I live in a body.  I have a mind.”  Since I was five, P.G.’s words have been ringing in my ears, reminding me that all these parts are meant to be there.  They all work together.  They all have a purpose.  And they all need attention.

I finally made it to a Bible Study tonight.  This is something I’ve been trying to do all year, but with my work schedule, family schedule, and getting out of town on the weekends schedule, it just hasn’t happened.

So after all my absences, here’s what I got into tonight:  My sister, a few other married ladies, one young gun, and myself met up tonight to discuss a book called “Lies Women Believe.” Let me just tell you, that title is all kinds of intimidating to me.  What’s more is that the lie we were covering this week was “Lies About Sin.” All I could think was, “I’m dead.  I’m so dead.  Just try to keep your mouth shut, Sommer.  If you are forced to say something, let it be in the lines of a hmm.”

But in the end, once we steered the young one away from big, blatant, horrible sins like murder and adultery, things that thankfully none of us struggle with, I came out alive–all spirituality and decency in tact.  I must believe that I am even better it–for speaking my mind, attaching my story to my beliefs, and listening to the challenges, questions, and love of these ladies.  Even though they are still so new to me, I was able to be humbly brave in their midst.

We openly discussed levels of sin, sins that can’t be forgiven, sins that are subtle, sins that are sneaky, and sins that just look like foolishness, but really stem from deep rooted lies that, yes, we believe as women.

And my mind sizzled.

So tomorrow morning, when I am running, practicing disciplining, I will also be praying in thoughts about growing in ever increasing glory.  All of this because I believe in being a spirit, living in a body, and having a mind.  Thanks, P.G. for molding my life even now so that I continue to seek the things that are most natural to my three-part being.

Night Talk

How many nights of my life have you gently knocked on my door with a plate of nachos, a glass of coke, or some bag of chips, ready to settle down into my comforters and let me cry because you knew there was more to be answered than “How was your day”?

How many nights have you stayed steady in the dizziness of my contemplations?

How many nights have you sucked the sourness of frustration from my heart like you suck vinegar out of chips?

How many nights have I thrown my words to the winds of your wisdom hoping they would catch truth and not be offended by it?

How many nights has your wisdom wind smoothed the rough patches of my heart, eroding doubt, anger, bitterness, or other vile, unrepentant emotions?

How many nights have I felt like too much and you have responded, “Me, too”?

As many nights as you have been my sister.

How many nights do I get to talk to you?

As many nights as we knock on each others’ doors with plates of nachos, glasses of coke, or bags of salt and vinegar chips.

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